#radfem and militant feminist arent synonyms

[mithliya]

i didnt argue about whether het-partnered women could take radical action. i wasnt even discussing whether they could be radical feminists on this post until you derailed it. the point of my post is that its not misogyny to think separatism is integral to radical feminism and its definitely not misogyny to insult men.

i dont call myself a radfem bc i respect that its a term for actual activists who take radical action. unfortunately, many people dont hold themselves to the same standards, and now people who dont hold such standards are trying to belittle my statements using that. i go to protests (including radfem protests), i speak up on my beliefs, i follow the ideology quite heavily, i educate myself on the theory, i donate to womens charities and causes, im working towards a career focused on helping traumatised women psychologically, etc.. but i think a radical feminist does more. i think radical feminists live the ideology and put more into furthering the cause bc theyre an activist group, not a fun identity to take up online after you realised gender ideology is sexist and hold some feminist beliefs. meanwhile you are desperate to make it more lenient of a term. and youre so desperate to argue that that you came onto my post and derailed it to make it about your desire to be deemed a radical feminist. i dont know how many times i should say i dont care and this is not the topic of my post for you to stop derailing it. you could address the actual point of my post if you take issue with it, but so far all of you have simply twisted my words and started talking around the subject. the way youre foaming at the mouth to try to frame women you disagree with as misogynists is tired and you even tried that up there despite me not saying anything misogynistic to you.

i keep seeing these posts like “i am TIRED of the misogyny against straight women from radfems” and as i brace myself to see something horrible and shocking, they end up elaborating with:

“this lesbian said i shouldn’t use the radical feminism tag for my post about details of heterosexual sex ive had”

“this woman said dating a man is not radical feminist of me.”

“this lesbian said separatism is good. meaning she wants to PUNISH me for being a woman”

“this woman is so misogynistic for saying men influence the women in their lives into having less feminist ideals”

“calling my boyfriend jakey or nigel is misogynistic”

how has radblr devolved into arguing that even insulting men is now misogynistic? this is embarrassing ladies!